I was sitting on my couch this morning, enjoying my cup of coffee and I was thinking what a perfect moment it was. It got me thinking about how much more I appreciate life at this age and how much easier it has gotten since I’ve turned 40. I remember being a teenager and thinking how old 40 sounded and now that I am, I’m thinking what a little brat I was. lol. But in all honesty, I believe we just don’t realize how good we really have it until we experience a couple of broken hearts, a few disappointments, and maybe a regret or two. I think that is just part of living and as we get older, we realize that we don’t have to break open every time something happens and we are capable of piecing ourselves together when we do. I wanted to share with you a few things I think happens to us as we embrace our “adulthood.”
1. You are more confident in your own skin.
Are there some extra wrinkles, saggy turkey neck, extra aches and pains? Sure! But when you get older, you just don’t give a damn as much about them. So, while it might seem that it sucks to watch your body change before you, you’ve spent so many years worrying what others think and beating your own self up about it, that by this stage of the game, you learn to just accept what is and you just kinda go with the flow. Sorta like your boobs do now.
2. Most of the things you worry about usually always work out.
This lesson is so freeing! It literally has saved my sanity, let alone a few heart attacks. No matter how big the thing is that has got you holding your breath, whatever happens, you still make it through. You realize that you have spent more time worrying about what could happen then what usually does happen. And guess what? Even if it does hurt, you still make it through. I’ve learned to just face it. I put my big girl panties on, face what is happening, find the lessons and blessings hidden within it, and then move right along. The monster is much scarier when you’re trying to hide from it.
3. You learn who your true friends are and are lucky enough to have some.
As I’ve gotten older, my friends and I have made lives for ourselves. We get busy. We get distracted. We’ve even found our own interests that might not necessarily appeal to even our ‘best friend’. That’s okay! True friends don’t need to call every single day or even like what you like, but they will always be there for you when the shit hits the fan. They might not be partying with you at 3am anymore, but you’ve probably been sleeping since 9:30pm anyway.
4. Life’s most beautiful moments are usually the small ones you probably overlooked when you were younger.
When we are younger, we are constantly striving for the bigger house, better car, better job, more friends, cuter clothes, etc., all so we can attain what we think is most important – to be liked. When you get older, you realize that a beautiful life lived has nothing to do with any of those things and everything to do with the moments in between. Watching someone smile because of you. Having your cat curl up in your lap. Sitting in your favorite spot with a really good book. Your favorite coffee drink made just right. Waking up and realizing it’s Saturday so you lay in bed just a wee bit longer with the sun peeking through your window shades. These small “ordinary” moments are the ones that usually light up your life.
5. You really do love your family.
Most of us spend our entire childhood wanting to leave home and be on our own. Some, even go as far as telling our parents that we can’t wait to move out and be far away from them. As we get older, something peculiar happens. We begin to realize how blessed we were to have someone who supports us, encourages us, and loves us even when we aren’t always being so lovable. We find ourselves wanting to be closer to home. Missing our parents and even our siblings that used to get us in trouble. If we moved far away from home, we might even find ourselves wanting to be closer to them and actually moving closer to them. You have discovered that your parents weren’t super human and they were just navigating through life and trying their best too. You probably find the phrases, “I’m sorry” and “Thank you”, flowing much easier through your lips these days towards them. You’re probably even thinking about calling them right now.
I would love to hear from you! In the comment section below, let me know something you’ve learned as you’ve grown up that has positively impacted your life.
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